Posts Tagged ‘relationships’
{ 17 April, 2009 @ 9:29 am }
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{ Confessions }
{ Tags: domestic violence, I let him hit me, love, relationships, The Truth Booth, violence, violent boyfriend }
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I’ve been seeing this guy for a little bit over 4 months. When I met him, I knew he was a bit rough, and to be honest it was only supposed to be about sex. Things grew, and although it’s early days, we both know and have said that we are in love. However, he’s insanely jealous, and twice now he’s gotten agressive when I’ve seen someone or text someone he doesn’t like. We spend every night together, so he knows I’m not cheating, I wouldn’t have the time! Also, I love him too much to be unfaithful.
However, he’s smashed up my phone twice, bitten me, pushed me around, thrown things at me, spat at me and kicked me, among other things. He’s never punched me, but I do have bruises afterwards. I will confess to fighting back to get him off me etc so I’m no angel. My problem is that having chosen to forgive him (he’s on his last warning), my biggest problem is the person it makes me. I always swore I’d never be the sort of woman who stands for that sort of thing, and now I’m worried I’m losing my personality and turning into the sort of person I used to despise for being weak. But I love him and don’t want to be without him.
{ 15 April, 2009 @ 9:23 am }
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{ Confessions }
{ Tags: friends with my ex, heartbreak, love, relationships }
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I am so upset. I’m incomplete! Why does life have everything to do with the opposite sex? I’m a female and I’ve been in such up and down relationships. I’ve never really had a real boyfriend. When there is a guy in my life it feels like the greatest feeling ever. I hate that I can’t just be happy single. Men make you happy and then it’s like they know how to make you sad. They take away your happiness. Is it something I do? I don’t think so because I’m friends with all my exes. I think I’m a fool.
{ 9 April, 2009 @ 7:07 pm }
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{ Confessions }
{ Tags: all I wanted was a friend, internet dating, love, relationships, The Truth Booth }
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I placed an ad in the friends section of a dating site and also posted that I am married and not seeking romance. All I wanted was a friend, but I think I’m falling hard for the sweetest man who really treats me exactly the way I want to be treated. He encourages me and sometimes his brutal honesty gives me the wake up call I need. He does not even come on to me, and his respect for me I can sense millions of miles away, but I’m no cheater, never cheated before but now I’m not so sure. My feelings are getting stronger and stronger, every email he wows me with his compassionate loving, gentle nature. Oh my god there I go again…
{ 5 April, 2009 @ 5:54 pm }
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{ The Truth Booth }
{ Tags: porn, relationships, The Truth Booth, why is he hiding his porn }
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The other night, I woke up to find my boyfriend wasn’t in bed with me, he was in the next room on the internet. As much as he tried to hide it, I found out he was visiting porn sites, in fact it looked like he was preparing to pull an all nighter. I felt almost cheated on. He went behind my back to watch it, and he was trying really hard to hide this from me.
I’ m no prude and I don’t get shocked by porn, I apprieciate men like it and will watch some from time to time and I even occasionally enjoy it myself. Why hide it from me like this, when I’m sexually open?
He said he couldn’t tell me because he was scared. I took him to sex shops to buy toys and other stuff, so I am not buying this excuse. I’ve been asking him how he feels when he watches it, and what makes good porn, but he’s avoiding all my questions. I just don’t understand why he would rather enjoy this without me…
Could anyone shed some light?
{ 2 April, 2009 @ 10:35 am }
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{ The Truth Booth }
{ Tags: cybersex with my ex, love, relationships }
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Ok had a fight with my fiancé and felt really shit, so texted my ex and started flirting with him. It felt so good, cheered me up and before I noticed we were having cybersex. I had forgotten how fit and sexy is his body compared to my guy who has let himself go since getting engaged. Now while sleeping with my fiancé I don’t get excited, he is crap in bed, love making is like a marathon for him. Every time we are in bed I am actually fantasizing of my ex and I like it. I feel a bit guilty though. Maybe I should not get married to a guy who’s body does not turn me on anymore. Scared that soon he will be disgusting for me. I know it is ok to fantasize from time to time but to do that all the time and dream of your ex sounds really bad. I love my fiancé but the image of my ex in the web cam really drives me crazy. Any advice?
{ 31 March, 2009 @ 10:11 am }
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{ Confessions }
{ Tags: hubby doesn't cherish me, love, marriage, relationships }
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I have been married for over 3 years now, and I absolutely hate it! If it wasn’t for our child I wouldn’t be here right now. I never thought I would be with someone who thinks romance is something that only exists in movies!
He has never actually taken me out on a date yet that I havent organised or paid for! He has absolutely no money and is dragging his heels when it comes to finding a real job. I wouldn’t even mind if he worked for McDonalds. Our child is three and my husband has never had a job! Even when I was on benefits, I was still the main bread winner! He doesn’t even know half of the bills and rent I have to pay, nor has he ever asked! I feel like I’m a single mother of two children! I am so angry, I work all the hours god sends trying to pay for everything, and most of the rest of time, I’m sleeping to recover. My life was never supposed to be like this, I feel like I’m carrying some serious dead weight I desperately need to get rid of.
He can’t even drive! It took me two years to learn, and most of the time I used my child benefit money to pay for lessons and the countless amount of tests I had to take! He doesn’t even want to bother learning, and it’s just not fair. I ended up with someone who doesn’t cherish me and Im angry at myself for doing it now.
{ 25 March, 2009 @ 9:47 am }
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{ Confessions }
{ Tags: jealousy, love, relationships, women are strange }
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This is not so much a confession but just to highlight what complex beings women are (as us men know). Well my girlfriend went away last week to see her Dad. This was the first time we’ve been apart as we are a fairly new couple with about 6 months into the relationship. The whole time she was there I called her and vice versa she seemed kind of moody over the phone times. I know this was because she missed me and stuff. Well she came back to London on Monday night, I drove over to see her later in a day on Tuesday because I had a lot on. I could see she was in a bit of a strop when I got there as if its my fault we hadn’t been together for a while.
I’m thinking hang on a minute you’ve been away, what do you want to say/do? Obviously I asked her if anything had happened over there but she said it was fine. So I guess its just part of learning about each other and maybe just a bit of jealousy. Nevertheless women act in funny ways.
{ 23 March, 2009 @ 9:41 am }
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{ The Truth Booth }
{ Tags: family, my dad is cheating on my mum, relationships }
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Two days ago I realised my dad was having an affair. He was taking me to a shop and said he’d wait in the car. I went back to the car to tell him it might take long. As I approached the car I realised he was on the phone, but as soon as he saw me he hid his phone. When I went back to the car the second time, a van was hiding me so he didn’t see me until I got to the door and he did the same thing but with a lot more haste. My mum has suspected him before and they have had major arguements over it. He seemed to start being faithful again but this incident just started my own suspicions again. I cried myself to sleep over it last night because I hate the fact that he’s not happy with my mum. There’s nothing she doesn’t do for him. So what do I do? Do I ask him? Do I tell my mum? Or do I ignore it and hope it goes away?
{ 22 March, 2009 @ 3:49 pm }
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{ The Truth Booth }
{ Tags: boyfriend, is this as good as it gets?, relationships }
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I’ve moved out of London to live with my boyfriend. We’ve been together on and off for 5 years. I’m no saint. I’ve cheated on him a couple of times and I’ve been with other men in-between our break-ups. Despite this, throughout the years we’ve got back together.
On my part, I don’t want to be without him. I’m scared of being on my own and I’m used to being with him. I did try to leave him alone for a few months, but I had bad experiences with guys so I went back to him. He had the same experience with girls he went on dates with: he met some girls online, went out with a few, but it never worked out. So,we ended up together again. Still, after 5 years, I have my doubts about us. He’s a wonderful man and my best friend, though I don’t have much physical attraction to him. He doesn’t fire me up anymore and he doesn’t make the effort to look nice for me or work out etc.
Like I said, we moved away and it’s just him and me in the house we live in. I have no friends here, though I’ve made a couple from work, but I don’t like where we live. And it’s not just that. He’s not into going out or socialising or dancing. He loves his books, computer games and watching television. I take responsibility too. I’ve been in this new town for three months and I’m getting some money, but I have yet to really venture out and meet new people and I’m finding it hard to do. I’m thinking of moving back home to London and starting all over again.
I don’t want to make the effort with him in the bedroom anymore and being intimate with him doesn’t really appeal to me as much. There are so many issues to think about at the moment, and it’s like I need to tackle them one day at a time or something. Is this just a bad patch since we’ve moved to another city, or should I cut my losses and run? I have respect for my man, though I find it hard to be really honest with him, in light of my past indiscretions.
{ 21 March, 2009 @ 8:24 pm }
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{ The Truth Booth }
{ Tags: committment phobics, love, relationships, six weeks seems to be my limit, The Truth Booth }
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I meet a guy and there’s an instant attraction. We talk all evening over drinks, laugh, find that we have loads in common. He phones a day or two later, we go out a few more times. Have great sex. He says I’m sexy, lists particular things he likes about me. I pay him compliments back – genuine ones. We go out more, we do fun stuff – dinners, movies, gigs, naked scrabble, walks in the park, all kinds of stuff. We talk ’til way past what should be bed time, get to work late because we spend too long in bed in the mornings. We hold hands on the tube, still kiss a bit in public, without being too overt about it. I cook for him, we spend a few nights in, a few nights out, always with great sex at the beginning, middle and/or end of the night.
Then I see him one night and he says it’s over, he ‘can’t do this anymore’. I go over the last time we were together. It was great. We haven’t even had our first fight yet. We’ve made plans to do things a in a few weeks time – his suggestion, not mine. I ask why… he can’t/won’t give me a reason. Nothing. Just that it’s over. Three to six weeks after it first began.
Now this hasn’t just happened once. It’s happened to me in my last five relationships. Now I’m no supermodel, but I’m a size 8, all my features are in proportion, and my friends seem to think I’m alright. I’ve got no disgusting habits, and I keep myself groomed within reason. In the beginning the guys find me attractive enough to tell me so. I’ve got a great circle of friends, am not clingy, hold down a good job etc. I guess I’m just a normal girl who would love to be in a decent relationship with a normal guy. But I can’t even get past 6 weeks.
I’m starting to think that either I am attracted to commitment-phobic guys, or that they are attracted to me, and then run away when things look like they could continue this way. I’ve had enough hurt and disappointment that I’d rather spend all my time on my own than get into these brief affairs. Where am I going wrong? Any ideas? Thanks!
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