What’s With the Cyber Phantoms?

I was chatting to this guy from a dating site and I asked for a photo of him. He replied that he would only consider sending one a lot further down the road in our communication. Naturally, alarm bells went off for me. We’d already been emailing one another for several days.

I’ve come to realise that if a guy doesn’t make a move by the fourth or fifth email – like asked for my number or suggested meeting up, yet continues to email, asking question after question and expressing great interest in me and my life, that he actually has no intention of getting out of cyberspace. Ever. Something is not right; he’s most likely a loner; odd; married; deeply lacking confidence or something like that. Or he could have horrendeous scarring on his face and be unable to face a woman but wants and needs the interaction with the opposite sex like most of us do. One just doesn’t know.

Anyway, so instead of obliging me with the requested photo although he had several of me, he gave me a description of himself. He said he was 5′9, 83-85kg, size 9 shoes, short hair. He didn’t mention his eye or hair colour. I found the emphasis on his foot size odd. Don’t you?

I had to write him and explain that I wasn’t into emailing for hours on end and that in my experience staying too long in cyberspace with a stranger is unhealthy. He wrote “Your opinion is respected and I’ll not seek to change that. Wish you well in your endeavours, now and in the future”. He may of respected my opinion but he sure as hell wasn’t respecting my wishes for safety. And that was that. Ho hum; another fuzzy encounter online.